Well, it’s almost midnight and I cannot sleep, so I thought I would write this post. I became a mummy 11 years ago at the age of 31 and it was like a switch went off in me. I loved those little people growing inside of me from the moment I learned they were in my tummy. Life changed overnight, but in the most blessed way. Anyhow, here are some of the most important things I have learned:
- Nurture them & make sure they know every single day how loved & cherished they are.
- Encourage them to try new things.
- Give them choices & show them that their views are important.
- Have empathy for them.
- Pure unconditional love. I had never experienced anything like it. Children light up the world.
- Make sure they know that they can talk to you about anything.
- Help them with things they get frustrated with and find difficult so that they do not find these things such a challenge anymore.
- If they struggle to do something, find another way. Each child is different.
- Support and encourage their friendships.
- Find fun ways of helping them learn new things.
- Promote their self esteem.
- Talk to them and encourage them to talk to you.
- Do lots of fun things with them.
- Positive parenting – I completed a really interesting Nurturing Programme course.
- They come first above everything and I have never questioned this. Gone were the days of being out at the pub with friends till late, or rolling in at 3am after going nightclubbing.
- In my case I chose a career working from home where I could not miss those special moments.
- Don’t wrap them up in cotton wool. Let kids be kids.
I read on another blog about #365daysofkindness. I think this is a wonderful idea as people are what matter and even the smallest gesture could mean more than you know to someone. In the last year, I have come across way too many people living on the streets, especially in Luton Town Centre and near Milton Keynes train station. I often stop and ask if they are ok and share whatever food I have with me, with them. Why do I do it? Not for thanks, or to get anything from it, simply because it breaks my heart to see people in that position and it literally could happen to anyone. I will be starting #365daysofkindness tomorrow.
Last year, I had a shock diagnosis of Ehlers Danlos Syndrome hypermobility type (sadly an inheritable condition with a 50% chance of inheritance), fibromyalgia & Chronic fatigue syndrome. I have to confess, it knocked me for six at first,even though the diagnosis made sense of a lot of seemingly unrelated issues, but once I had come to terms with it, I realised something. I am still ME. I will not be and am not defined by it and to be honest, I do not want to think about it at all and most of all, I want my children to see their mummy just getting on with her life, just like any other mummy.